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Sex Toys and Where to Purchase Them
(05/04/2004) by Elizabeth McNeff
While a disability can be challenging to full sexual expression, sexual aids and toys can bring you new and powerful dimensions
of pleasure. Whether used with a partner or individually, they can increase body awareness, produce immense amounts of
stimulation and enhance your overall sense of sexual well-being.
You'll find a wide variety of sex toys at your local adult or sex toy store. If your confidence isn't quite up to that, try one of
the mail order catalogs listed in the resources--they provide a wonderful opportunity for you and your partner to discuss likes
and dislikes in the privacy of your home.
Toys R Us
The most common sex toys are vibrators, often referred to as "muscle relaxers" or "body massagers." In real life, vibrators are
used by women for clitoral and vaginal stimulation. They are produced in every shape, size and color imaginable, and are
made of vinyl, rubber or hard plastic.
Plug-in vibrators, are powerful and provide strong and consistent genital stimulation. Most have multiple speeds and come with
a variety of heads. Battery-operated vibrators are inexpensive, portable and offer a gentler vibration.
Another good addition to any women's stash of sex toys is a vibrating clitoral stimulator. They're great to wear in private for
no-hands sexual gratification. Other models are designed for sharing and feature an attached ring to accommodate a penis--no
penetration required. Use your imagination.
For men, sleeves which slide over the penis and apply suction and stimulation to the glans can provide new opportunities to
explore masturbation. Or sharing masturbation with a partner can be informative and highly erotic for both parties.
Penis pumps are another option--they encase the penis while a vacuum pump, operated by a small motor or a squeeze bulb,
eagerly sucks away. For those gents who desire an ego booster, some manufacturers have included a built-in gauge that
measures exactly your newly acquired length.
More Gadgets
Dildos have been around since the dawn of humanity and probably will be for a while longer. Made of pliant silicone these
days, they can be used for vaginal or anal penetration and come in every configuration you might think of and many you
probably wouldn't. For safety, dildos intended for anal use should have a flared base.
Prosthetic penile aides are hollow dildos, usually made of latex, and can be worn by either males or females. They are held
on with adjustable elastic straps or a "universal harness" designed for any dildo or penile aide with a flared base.
Lubricants add a sensual slickness to sexual stimulation. Many are odorless, tasteless and non-staining, and some are edible.
Others warm up when you blow on them--a tasteful way to create a hot environment! But use only water-based
lubes--oil-based lubicrants destroy the latex used in condoms, dams and diaphragms.
There are many toys available for bondage aficionados. Most catalogs offer blindfolds--some lined in fake fur--buckled or
hook-and-loop restraints, slappers and hand cuffs. One ensemble offers a black leather set with silver chain, wrist restraints
and buckled collar--leash optional.Fantasy Toys
Yet more toys: positioning pillows, "smittens" (textured mittens). tranquillity balls, safe sex kits, guides, books, erotic videos,
feathers, games, leather accessories and various attachments for the nipples and genitals.
Before you begin experimenting with your new (or old) sex toys, try to set the mood. Prepare yourself emotionally by
watching erotica, listening to music or lighting incense. Get in tune with your environment and create your own sensual
space. Relax. Feel your breath on your lips. Be creative; your desire is to create more pleasure. Be your own Prophet of
Pleasure.
Product Links:
www.Libida.com. Sex toys, tips and erotica for women.
Vibrators
Battery-operated vibrators
Hands-free Clitoral Stimulators
Lubricants
Dildos
Fantasy Toys
Penis Pumps
Resources:
* CLEO Living Aids (adaptive devices for use with sexual aids),3957 Mayfield Rd., Cleveland, OH 44121;
800/321-0595, 216/382-9700.
* Lawrence Research Group, (sexual aids--ask for the Special Edition for Disabled People), 874 Dubuque Ave., South San
Francisco, CA 94080; 800/242-2823.
* Mellow Mail (sexual aids, lingerie, books, videos), P.O. Box 8000, San Rafael, CA 94912; Phone TK.
* Open Enterprises, Inc. (sex toys, books, videos--ask for the Good Vibrations catalog), 938 Howard Street, Suite 101, San
Francisco, CA 94103-4163; 800/289-8423.
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