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Melissa BEE has answered 132 questions.

I am a special education teacher who has been asked to teach 12 yr. old autistic students about their budding sexuality. can you point me to come resources

When I put my finger in my wife's vagina I touch something that makes her flood almost like she is weeing, not all the time now and again. I'm always trying to find it but cant all the time, what have

I am a teaching assistant for a 14 year old boy with autism. I've worked with him for 6 years. I've watched him loose teeth, learn to comb his hair, and go nuts when he sees a pretty girl! Now he is t

Thank you for all the great articles that you have. My wife checks herself once a year for cervix cancer. She is going back soon, but she is concerned about having semen in her when she goes to get

I am a behavior specialist (MA Psych in applied behavior change) currently working with a young male teen with autism who is trying to understand his sexuality. Inappropriate behaviors his family is c

My wife checks herself once a year for cervix cancer. She is going back soon, but she is concer about having semen in her when she goes to get herself examine. My question then is: "how long in genera

My main concern is for myself although my wife is the cause of my questions. My wife has CP and a history of being molested as a child. Her sex drive when we first met (before we were married) was to

Please help me out with sexual positions that won't put pressure on both partners knees. I don't mind pictures but I am not looking for porn.

I'm 18 yrs old and I used to love to have sex. Recently though I have taken a liking to masturbation. I would prefer to masturbate than have sex. Is this normal for a female my age?

I am a male trying to help my wife and I to have orgasm at the same time. She prefers massages instead of intercourse for orgasm. What can I do to have regular vaginal-penis sex and get best pleasure

My older brother got a rash from his new girlfriend that he had met over the internet. Both, my brother and his girlfriend has this rash. From what I read, it sounds like herpes. This rash covers thei

Read your column with great interest.

I am a SpED teacher working for the first time with a six year old ASD boy. He is delightful and I love to learn with him. My difficulty is in managin

I am the mother of a beautiful 9 yr. old. He was diagnosed with autism at age 5. I knew something was wrong around age 2 when the only word he could say was "alright". The Doctor's told me he was d

On 2 occasions in the last few months, my wife and I have made love in the middle of the night. Afterwards she has been upset and when ask why, she has informed me that I awoke here and was very persi

I just want to ask that masturbation is harmful or not? I am geting married next year and masturbating from 17 age.. Please tel me willl it effect my married life. My Penis has become small a

I am in a relationship of two years standing with a man who I think has autism. He is high functioning - lives alone, is financially independent, looks after himself well physically and reads widely.

My son is a 6 yrs old with asperger's (autism). He use to masturbate until he had ulcerations. He still masturbates excessively. I know this is a form of self stimulation common in autism. But, wha

I have gradually lost feeling in my genitals. I suffer from depression but I am questioning the fact that I may have Asperger's Syndrome. I have three childern who look to all have the same symptoms

I take care of a teen that is autistic, he does not speak or understand a lot of verbals. He is 15 and has recently been going through puberty. He continually has erections throughout the day and hasn

My finace has a complete spinal cord injury. He is not able to get an erection or ejaculate. I was just wonder what options we have for having children. What is would the process to remove semen fr

dear cynthia. im 28yrs married woman.me & my husband are in to heavy anal sex practicing since married.since i year i noticed that my anus hole became a black all around...i consulted a specailist D

What sorts of infections is a man at risk for by performing unprotected anal sex on a woman? I recently had unprotected sex with a woman, and the base of my penis became pink and irritated during sex.

After my divorce, I was celebate for several years. I recently found a man that I like very much and we decided to have intercourse. But for the first time, the sex was painful and I bled the next d

I have recently noticed that may semen color has changed. It has a yellowish tint to it now. Is this something I should be concerned about?

my question is that my wife feel a very heavy pain when i try to penetrate her , tell me is it normal with every femail. i have a normal size penis. where is the hymen located in side a female as she

I'm a 32-year-old hetero male with Asperger's Syndrome. I've never had a girlfriend (or lover in any sense of the word -- I'm a virgin), and have never really come close to doing so. I just don't

HI, I have a question about female discharge. My boyfriend say I used to be very sweet tasting now my body fluid has become sour, not to be to graphic but it smells just like a condom. I have also bee

In my previous relationship of six years I had lots of sex. My partner like to use dildos and she like being eaten out, she liked anal sex. I am in a new relationship now and we decided to start havi

i have a question re. a student in middle school in indiana usa who has low fuctioning autism and who has been critized for expressing his sexuality at school the student is a male 12 -13 years old an

I don't know if this is truly and orgasmic disorder or not. I used to have orgasms every time my boyfriend and I had sex, but it was only because I was trying really had to have them and I was rubb

Hi Melissa, I wanted to ask you a question,I had asked you a question before and you were so helpful:) This probably going to sound strange but here goes. When I first started dating my boyfriend 7

The man I am currently with is not circumcised. How do you give oral sex to him so he can enjoy it?Do you pull the foreskin back?

Me and my Husband have been married for 2 years, and my daughter is almost 2. Ever since my daughter has been born I have lost all of my sex drive. I love my partner with all of my heart but I am just

I have been searching for my wife's g spot for some time now and have not had any luck. Any thoughts or suggestions? Do all women have a g spot?

I am enquiring on behalf of a 26 yr old male friend with who is unsure about what women want from men? and initiating relationships.How to know if women find him attractive.

I have never been sexually abused, or if I have, I have no awareness of it. From very early on in my life I have found severe abusive sexual scenarios attractive. Were I a man I would struggle with

I am a 19 year old male that has not had intercourse yet. My girlfriend has given my oral sex many times and I would like to return the favor. The problem is, is tha I do not know how to make her or

I am a 26 year old virgin and have recently started seeing a man who wants to be sexually active. We've pleasured each other in many ways but have never had intercourse. I am nervous about my "first

I am a gay male and am only recently diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. I thought being gay was tough. (I "came out" late; at 29). Asperger Syndrome is another situation where I have "known I was di

I stumbled upon your bio as a "referral" from an "autism" search. I am 21 years old and have been diagnosed with Aspergers since 1996. I just wanted to say hi and how wonderful it is to see that a

I 24 and been with the same guy for 5 years now. We have a 3 yr old son. My problem is that I never have an orgasm with my partner. I can have an orgasm if I used a vibrator on my clit and then it tak

Hello, I am an RN, Certified Developmental Disability Nurse. I have been providing Sex-Ed to indivuals w/DD, staff trng, presenting at Conferences, re: supporting relationships and sexuality for peopl

Melissa, I have been in a long distance relationship with a man 52 y/o and have become aware when I fly to see him that he spends approx 4 hours a day on the net looking up porno and masturbating. He

I'm only 47, but I'm finding my sexual life changing. Not necessarily for the better. Erections that came on their own must now be brought about by direct stimulation. Visual aids don't help.

I would like to know more about the 'Rear entry position' in the sexual positions.It's not clear to me what this how this position is made. Also ,if you could let me know the 'best sexual positions

I have an incredible relationship with my fiancé and our sex life has been just as incredible. Until recently, last week for the first time my penis could did not achieve maximum erection and since t

Ever since I was about 9 yrs old I have always ejaculated by rubbing my penis against a pillow so whenever I ejaculated, my penis was always standing straight up. After many years of doing this, now w

I have recently married. I know that women have hymen which usually tears on first sexual intercourse. However, this did't happen when I had my first intercourse with my wife. I know there might be ot

I am a 21 year old young man. I have been have embarrassing problem which I think it is now time to ask experts like yourselves. My pubic hair has grown only on my genitals but has not grown on my ab

I have been married for nearly two years, and I cannot seem to have sex with my husband. Besides not being able to fit, I have'nt really got much desire for sex. Sometimes I actually hate it when he t

I have been thinking that I may have HPV, I have a lot of visible spots, only visible when I have an erection. I have just noticed some largish brown blotches. I have one on my penis and a few more b

I am a group facilitator of Parents & Friends of Children with Special Needs. The parents are showing discomfort with allowing their grown children with special needs to have sexual desires and enjoy

My question concerns an inability to orgasm during manual stimulation. I know little about where the clitoris actually is, but have engaged in enough "exploration" to be come frustrated with the

My son is almost out of autism. he was in local newspapers for our success of the treatment. but nowadays he is in his puberty and very interrested about his sexual organs and girls and want to be t

i have a project to do on people with autism and was just wondering if they get married, how, what their lives are like and what are the chnaces of their kids getting autism?

I love to masturbate, but I am unable to get myself to come to a climax so I will be able to taste it on my fingers. Why is this happening and what can I do to correct this poblem?

My wife and I are both healthy 47 year olds who have been married for over 20 years. As is frequently the case, I suppose, we have settled into a pretty predictable routine in the bedroom with a very

Hi . I have just be told I have adult AS. I was with an absolutely wonderful women for over 3 months and during that time I tried to make love to her.However in most cases I was not able to enter h

Hello Sir. I have been married for about a year now. When i have sex with my wife, i do not use a condom because when i wear a condom, my skin gets rolled in and the inner portion gets exposed, this

I need help resetting an internal clock, either mine or my husband's. We both love sex, but while I would like it nearly anytime I'm awake, he's interested only late at night, after I've been asleep f

I have dated my current girlfriend for 5 months now (we are both virgins and first time boy/girlfriend to each other). Two weeks ago I have started to massage her breasts and sucking her nipples and s

Is it possible for woman to become pregnant while her hymen is still intact?

hi dr. sandra, im 17 years old and i have been going out with my gf for quite some time. we have had sex for many times and each time we had sex without any contraceptive methods. but there is this on

when I was seven years old I was sexaly abused by a frind of the falimly. she was in high school. and then My MOM walk in on me masturbating on my badroom bad. With the door closed and did not tap on

I wrote to you a week ago. I have a learning desibily and I can not spill very good and english is not my cup of tee. I am so, very sorry that I did not tell you sooner. This is about being Sexaly abu

when my girlfreind and i have sex, alot and i mean alot of fluid comes out of her virgina.what is it? it doesnt taste like urine. at least an ounce or two from each orgasim, total of about 7 or 8 o

do you no if petite females like big men and or pinuses better than they like small men with small or big pinuses?.and is 2 inchs wide by 6 1/2 inch long strap on dildo to big for a 48 year old mothe

ok this is the deal... i had unprotected sex and he came in me, the day i was supposed to start my period. my period somewhat started but was way lighter and didnt last as long as normal. im on birthc

Hello. I've only been with one man for the last five years and I have a problem. My vagina is not the same as it used to be. I'm upset that it has stretched considerably. I'm ashamed of it and it make

If you and your partner are both virgins and you are messing around and or foreplay and the male happens to cum while in foreplay. If the sperm happens to get on or near the vagina will the sperm swim

When a virgin goes to the Gynocologist for the first time, does the doctor break the protective membrane during the papsmear, or will it be broken during sexual intercourse? Can sperm enter into th

I am a healthy 22 year old female. I have a 2-year old daughter, and have been sexually active, on and off for 7 years. I recently found myself in a new sexually active relationship. After being ma

lack of interest and find sex boring

Im in my late teens and my hormones are flying like crazy but im still a virgin and will stay like that untill i find the right girl or when i get married. I started masturbating like a little while b

I am in the health care field... I work with a 10 year old autistic boy that has started to fool around with masturbating on himself... Myself and his mother have been worried as far as how we can hel

I am 20 years old and have been in a sexual relationship with the same man for the past 2 years. In the past year I have noticed much more pain with intercourse, and I dont lubricate properly. I

when my girlfriend and i fool around she gets this weird feeling while being stimulated she describes as flushness. She says it feels as if the blood leaves her head and returns quickly it lasts only

My son is autistic, and 23 years old. He is fairly high functioning. I would best characterize his ability to understand and communicate as binary.....on/off, yes/no, up/down, etc. I have been dire

I had sex three months ago to my wife. That was the first time i am experiencing a sex. I really want to make her happy all the time. Therefore; i give her full priority during the sex. During the sex

My husband doesn't want sex as much as I do.

My boyfriend and i both have hpv. i performed oral sex on him two days ago, and today i noticed white spots on the back of my throat. he doesnt have any visible warts on his penis. could this be th

As an autistic person how do you learn emotional intimacy, can you sugest somebody to help

I feel extremely inadequate in the penis size department. When flaccid I am about 2 inches and when erect I am between 5.75 and 6 inches. I have read that this is about average, but I am 6'4" and a bi

I just want to ask ,How to bring any woman to the hightest point of excitment and desire to have sex right now? THANKS

"please clear with pictures as possiple asyou can"

i want to increase my cock. and how can i do that. as i feel it little short for me.

Hi. I hope you can answer my guestions. When me and my husband have sex sometimes it hurts in certain positions. Could this be because it goes in too far and that it might br scraping my cervix? After

Hello, I am a mentor for a 15 year old young man with the ausburger form of autism. He is a very bright young man. Recently he has become aware of body image and the social aspects of dating and

I have been in a relationship with a man who I love dearly for 3 years. When we first met it was like we had both found "the right" partners. We were happy for 3/6months. I noticed that my partner was

I am a 20-year-old woman with high-functioning autism who is currently living indepedently and attending a women's college. However, I have had questions about sexuality for some time, and my family

How do I teach my husband (who has high functioning Asperger's)better body/sexual communication awareness skills, without him feeling criticized and giving up? When we married, I knew he seemed sexual

After sex is it normal for your vaginal area to be swollen or sore. My vagina was normal after intercorse when I went to cleanse myself it became sore and had the appearance of a rash

Often during intercourse I get a sharp pain in the right side of my lower stomach. Also, 4 times in the past I have had to stop having sex because the pain went from the right side of my lower stomach

When I have sex my partner says I'm too open I have tried everything but nothing works, he says its like i have had lots of children but I have none. I also get very wet during sex what can i do to pr

I'm a 25 year old male and my fiance in 18 months younger to me. We have been engaged since the last 4 months and are getting married 15 days from now. We are both deeply in love with each other and a

I would like to know if there are any benefits to swallowing sperm during sex or is it unsafe in any way. Exactly what is in the substance anyway. Thank you

i know alot of people have asked and it seems that only surgery is the way to enlarge a penis, but i have seen many ads as well as read stories on penis enlargement pills. one such site is www.albionm

Five minutes After mastubation, I always have to pee. I have to take a leak. Is that normal ?

I am a 63 yr old. gay female, who has met a wonderful woman, and am very deeply in love. My problem is that when I am approaching orgasm, it is as if something switches off and I cannot have an orga

Recently I have genital touch with my boyfriend but both of us are clothes on (slack and underwear),is it possible for the sperm to enter the ovum and cause pregnancy? my coming menstrual period rough

I just want to ask you about pregnacy -- after how many days women can be pregnant?

When is the best time to get a girl pregnant, before her period, during her period or after?

I can't achive an orgasim dring sex when I'm on top.What should I do?

Melissa,

I am a virgin, however, I have been dating a guy and of course the issue of sex has arose. We both think that sex is something we might want to engage in in the future if our relat

Hello! Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions. First, my question is about painful intercourse. All the time I've enjoyed intercourse, my boyfriends is very sweet and gentle when he pe

I am single, unattached and have been indulging in masturbation very often (1-2 daily). Just recently, i went to see a urologist and he said i have an inflamation of my postrate gland (burning feeling

My boyfriend and i have only been together for a short time, but we are very intensly in love with eachother. However, he finds it impossible to ejaculate during sex. i am his third partner and this i

Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. My problem is as follow, im a incomplete paraplegic and i have some problems having an erection my doctor recommended viagra and some times it wor

I have recently become involved sexualy with my girlfriend, she doesn't like to be fingered and she doesnt masturbate so when we tried to have sex for the first time we couldn't because it was very pa

i have these white dots on my scrotum and shaft on my penis i know wat they are but i am wondering if there is a way i can get rid of them without seeing a doctor

I noticed problems with delayed ejaculation for about 5 years but it wasn`t until I was in my first relationship for 6 years that it was a problem. It was the prime reason for the breakup of the 2 yea

First of all sorry for my poor english I wish you will be able to understand my question.

I am living at Turkey,Istanbul. Maybe you dont know that we are not really free to have a sex with ourgi

My wife and I have been experiencing a problem with intercourse. The main problem is that it is painful for my wife when I penetrate. The background on this issue has to do with the size and rigidity

I am 19 years old and a virgin. I've never been in any sort of relationship with a male partly because I dont believe I'm ready for one and partly because I was brought up in a very culturally strict

Hi Melissa Bee. I have recently seperated from a 18 year marriage,i am 43 years old.My first sexual encounter with my now defacto resulted in a bad experience.She wanted sex but didnt at the time,she