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There are a few questions I have under my hat. One of them being that I tend to have too much vaginal fluid/lubrication when aroused. This puts my husband off touching me let alone anything else. I don't experience enough foreplay before penertration, and if I want it, I have to do it myself. I would love for my husband to touch me more, even a little oral touching would be wonderful. He says he has never experienced such amount before and not sure if he likes it. This has only happened since being with my husband (not any previous partners). I am extremely frustrated. Please can you help?
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by Megan Andelloux: (01/08/2009)
This is a great question, is there such a thing as TOO much lubrication?
The simple answer is yes.
One could be experiencing more vaginal lubrication if there is an infection or they are on a new medication (for instance,the birth control method Nuvaring can increases vaginal lubrication). If it is something that is new to you, more lubrication, I would suggest going to the doctor, just to make sure things are ok, which I think they are since it doesn't sound like it's more lubrication for you, it's just more lubrication than YOUR HUSBAND likes.
And that is where the problem probably lies.
You say that you are producing lubrication when aroused, but that you are not getting enough foreplay from him. How can one be over-aroused if they are feeling like they aren't getting enough foreplay? Aroused is how you are feeling, not just how your body is reacting. You state that your husband is not comfortable with the amount of lubrication you are producing so he is unwilling to touch you manually or orally, and this is leaving you frustrated.
The answer to this question will not be to wipe your vagina more often, or to try to not become physically aroused anymore. The answer to this question will probably involve education and therapy. Does your husband know about vagina's lubricating? Maybe he has not learned that this is a healthy reaction to the prospect of being sexual with someone. Or maybe it is something he is just not comfortable with. Just like some people only like tall individuals. It could just be his preference. The question then is: Is this something he can try to change his taste on? Could he learn that this is hot? That it means you are so attracted to him that you juice up at the prospect or is it something that is a deal breaker for him. You both will need to process this question to get an answer that is healthy for you both. You don't want to feel rejected, he doesn't want to feel like he has to like something he doesn't...so either he learns more about the sexual response system, learns to love it or learns how to make you feel stimulated that honors both of you, or it may be something that will cause you to part ways.
Not the nicest answer to hear I know, but it's important to realize that everyone has different tastes, one isn't right or wrong, it just is. The important thing is meeting up with someone who honors and respects you and all you have to offer.Reviewed by: Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk) DHS
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