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I'm only 47, but I'm finding my sexual life changing. Not necessarily for the better.
Erections that came on their own must now be brought about by direct stimulation. Visual aids don't help.
Erections that were once so hard some sexual positions were not comfortable have softened. My penis gets erect, but has the ability to bend at the base. There is some softness in the shaft as well.
Ejaculations used to shoot my semen out 6 inches or more (in fact, I remember once before we were married, my wife and I were masturbating together and both tried to see how long we could delay orgasm. After 3 hours and 10 minutes of what we used to call "heavy petting," I had an orgasm that shot my semen into my face. But now it oozes out. The amount is much smaller.
Most frustrating is that the lack of control I have over my orgasms. At one time I could pretty much come when ready -- I'd wait until my wife had her orgasm, and then I'd come. (We were never attracted to simultaneous orgasms). Now my wife comes, and then it takes me another 45 minutes to come -- if I come at all.
After 90 minutes or so of intercourse, I just pull out, exhausted. My wife and I just cuddle while I either masturbate or while my wife masturbates me.
I have been masturbating almost daily since I was 12 years old, and continue to do this. My wife and I have been married 26 years and we continue to have sex of some sort (oral, intercourse, or masturbation together) 2 or 3 times each week.
Is this the beginning of aging, or is it something else?
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Answer:
by Melissa BEE: (06/25/2004)
My impression is these symptoms are all a part of aging, however I do recommend a full medical check up, to rule out any prostate, bowel or urinary problems. If all is well, look to increasing your level of exercise - this has a beneficial effect on blood flow and the muscle tone of your pelvic floor - this is important for erection control and maintaining the hardness, and to a certain extent the force of ejaculation as well. Walking bike-riding and swimming or surfing are all excellent to tone and keep fit. Also ensure you stick to a low fat diet and watch your cholesterol intake. You may also find the use of a cock ring or constrictive device after full erection will help maintain and enhance your erection, as well as increase sensation and feeling. These come in many types from soft jelly, to leather and metal rings and can be found in most adult shops on and offline at a reasonable price.
Good Luck, Melissa BEEReviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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