I couldn't hold on to girl tought for long, don't get me wrong, the ambience at home and at school is perfect and I never had gay tendencies and I don't want to have them in the future. The thing is, I think, that if I remember correctly, I hadn't masturbated in about 15 days, I had a wet dream about 10 days before, but before that I had been spending 5 days with some friends and I was really nervous because it could happen, before that I had a few " normal days " at home but even before that I had spent abotut 10 days with another friend at her house, and I had a wet dream in one of the last days there, so when the thing described above happened I was very tense and excited and couldn't get girls out of my mind but in that day, I was ok, as if I had masturbated but I couldn't focus on beautifull women and they kind of disappeared from my head as soon as I started thinking about them.

Girls and women seemed unactractive all of a sudden, and so did men, so I was kind of in between but playing tricks on myself with guys. It's like I've lost the ability to love and appreciate girls, I've had 2 orgasms since, but I kind of felt like I didn't need them as I needed before and girl toughts were harder to flow truh my mind, understand it ? Those orgasms weren't as good as when I really appreciated women and I find it much harder to get aroused by women tham before. It’s as if I was 4 yars old and I could look at a beautiful women and that was only a person and I just start looking at something else because that isn’t interesting no more.

Also, I’ve been bugged by the fact that women could say if another woman is preety and men couldn’t, so I started to put an effort into that, and nowdays I can say if a men is cute or not, ability wich I’ve grown to hate. I'm sorry if my english is incorrectly, I'm sorry if I wasted some of your time, and I'd like an answer please . Thanks a lot in advance

First, your age is one where the hormones and eventual fantasies are going to change quickly. Your body is probably at a peak age for the ups and downs of hormone response in your body. There is so much change in body chemistry that is also part of your response to sexual stimuli that to have it be so variable is very natural for this age.

Second, just because you are finding girls/women less arousing at the moment doesn't mean it won't return just as quickly. Remember, anything we focus on for intense periods of time will eventually have less impact. If you eat icecream for every meal every day, after a while it gets a little boring and you look for a change.

Third, just because you find that men are intriguing to you as well doesn't mean that you are going to always be attracted to them in this way either. It may not be a sexual attraction, but a more curious attraction. Even if it is more sexual, it doesn't mean you are homosexual. Lots of people, both men and women, find individual people of both genders sexually attractive. That is the positive response to a developing sexuality. There are many people out there you can find yourself attracted to.

Who you decide to take action with is different than who you fantasize about, who you enjoy looking at walking down the street, etc. Most of us have a huge fantasy life, and if we allow ourselves to really study our attractions they may be based on far more than just gender.

Also, just because someone is attracted to others of the same sex, doesn't mean they have gay tendencies. Most of the gay men in this world do not "act gay", what ever that means. They just find themsevlves romantically, sexually, and almost spiritually attracted to a person of the same sex.

It also sounds in your story is that you were trying to stop yourself from having wet dreams or being sexually aroused which can also make you nervous, and interfere with your natural attractions. I hope that you can just relax and let yourself develop. There is nothing wrong in finding people in both genders attractive, and then as you grow older, selecting the person that you want to spend your life with. At this time in your life, it is probably too early to tell who that might even be.

I don't know if this addressed everything you wanted to hear but feel free to write me back and we can continue to talk about this. I am on vacation now but getting to my sexual health mail about every three days.

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