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Four days ago my boyfriend and I were fooling around in bed. Neither of us have ever had sex or been in any way sexually active. We ended up both with our pants off and his penis was touching my vagina, although there was no entry and most of the time the head of his penis wasn't on it. I am worried about this because my period always or usually comes at the end or the beginning of the following month (it used to be pretty irregular, but after six years has evened out); this happened December 31 and today is the 4th of January and I still don't have my period. I have never had anything enter my vagina, I don't even use tampons because they are painful for me to insert. Does this mean that my hymen would have blocked any preejaculate from entering? He did not ejaculate at all; we stopped because we knew we had gone too far and want to be wise for our future, as well as avoid betraying our personal convictions about sex before marriage. I am afraid of pregnancy, is there a possibility I could be pregnant, and what are the odds? I have been feeling minute cramping that comes before my period, but could these small cramps be from something else? Or should these cramps be an assurance that my period is on its way? Thank you, I am anxious for a reply.

Answer:
by Megan Andelloux: (06/11/2006)
Rest Assured Sweetness, you nor your boyfriend acted in a way that would cause a pregnancy. He did not enter you, he did not ejaculate (cum) near your vaginal opening, in fact, he didn't come at all. Next time you play like that, just use a condom to give you peace of mind. It can be very fun, sexy and hot to put the condom on him and it doesn't mean you are going to have sex, it just means you are taking every precaution to not get pregnant so you don't have to freak about whether or not your pregnant. Good for you for creating, sticking and communicating about your values! They are so important! Good Luck and thanks for writing in! Megan Andelloux

Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology

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