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I don't know if I am asking this question under the right category, but I was wondering if someone could help me. I am extremely paranoid about my sex life with men. I have been dating a guy for about a month now, and I can't believe that he actually likes me for me, and doesn't just want me for sex. I am a "technical" virgin, and prior to dating this guy, I had apprehension about having my vagina touched. I went to the gynecologist, who worked with me on this issue, and I am finally able to let someone touch me down there, and I finally got a tampon all the way inside of my body for the first time a few days ago. But I have never had an orgasm from oral sex--it feels strange and I'm not sure I enjoy it. I have also never had an orgasm from anything manual as far as my boyfriend goes. I get wet, as I do with oral sex, but I never feel "good." At this point, the only thing I can achieve orgasm from is masturbating through my clothes. When I touch my vagina directly, it just does not feel good. It doesn't hurt--it just doesn't feel as good as when I rub myself through my clothes. Also, any time my boyfriend and I are "messing around," and he puts my hand down his pants, or wants me to give him a blow job, I will make a rude comment about how he only wants me to get him off, or about how he only wants me for sex (even though we haven't actually had intercourse yet). I don't know why I do this, but it is messing up our relationship, and he doesn't want to deal with it. I have an appointment to see a counsellor in a few days. Is this enough? Is there a way I can fix this quickly so I won't appear messed up in the head, or strange? I like this guy more than any guy I've ever liked before, but my apprehension about being touched and about his motives is screwing this up, and I don't know what to do to stop it. I'm sorry this question is so long, but I'd appreciate it if you could e-mail me an answer ASAP. Thanks! :)
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by Rajendra Sathe: ()
A counselor-therapist is the best person for her.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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