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I wrote to you a week ago. I have a learning desibily and I can not spill very good and english is not my cup of tee. I am so, very sorry that I did not tell you sooner. This is about being Sexaly abused when I was seven years old.It was night time and this gral was a teenager and she took me in her room and closed the door and then took my pants off and under wear off and she pull me into a closeit in her room and she put my, penis in to her mouth and started to suck on my penis and it hurt very much. She did this to me more
then one time, I was only seven years old at the time. And I am not making this up at all!!!
I do thank that it has purmliby hurt me and made me started to masterbate my self. As to your orther Q I do masterbate only in my house, that is the only time......
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by Melissa BEE: ()
Hi again, I am sorry for the delay in responding. School holidays just ended in Australia, and school went back just this week, so its been a hectic time.
I carefully read through everything you said, though I have no solutions for you, I can offer reassurance.
Sexual abuse does not necessarily lead to masturbation.
Issues of abuse will manifest in how you inter-relate with others on an intimate level, how you feel when someone touches you, and how you feel about yourself, and your body. If you were taken advantage of as a child, then, while this is very traumatic, and can leave emotional scars you need to deal with these psychological issues and put those instances behind you. Otherwise those events will prevent you from enjoying your intimate relationships now and in the future, and you don't want that, do you? Getting over traumatizing life events is a PROCESS. If you need help working through the process of dealing with it, you may need some professional help to make the journey through it less confusing. Contact a professional counselor or psychologist that has experience in dealing with these issues - don't be afraid to ask!
People masturbate because they feel sexual arousal, touching oneself feels good and the desire for orgasm and most importantly for relief of sexual tension is strong. Sometimes the urgency of relief can become almost urgent, and orgasm in this instance can act as a safety valve actively decreasing anxiety and causing relaxation - especially if a masturbation session is followed by a short nap or sleep. You may like to do some further reading on masturbation on the web, which will help broaden your understanding that masturbating is not a bad thing - it is a normal activity, performed by about 80% of the population.
You also made mention of discomfort after circumcision. There are now new surgical techniques that have been developed that can help 'put back' some of that skin. Ask your doctor for details and for a referral to a surgeon to discuss what your options are. Shop around and get a couple of opinions before you commit yourself to anything. Ask if you can meet with a patient who has had this procedure.
Good Luck!
Melissa BEE
Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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