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by Konstance McCaffree: (05/19/2004)
Thanks for your question. I really can't give you a good answer about the "chance" that your girlfriend is pregnant. Percentages are not a way to look at this. By this time, she either is or is not pregnant. If she is, then you will have several decisions to make, hopefully with her.
If you did not ejaculate inside her vagina or anywhere near the opening, then the amount of sperm available to travel to an egg that is present is far less than had you ejaculated. Does it mean that there was none? That is hard to know. It is hard to know how much ejaculate had made its way into your urethra during that time of taking the penis in or out. You also don't know if she even had an egg present.
The egg is only present for about 24 hours during each menstrual cycle. If there was no egg ovulated during the time that there was live sperm up in her fallopian tubes (sperm can live there for up to 5-6 days so even if this was a day or two before her ovulationg, pregnancy can occur) then there is no risk at all.
I do hope that in the future you will be sure to use condoms. This can't make much sexual pleasuring fun if there is so much worry over a pregnancy. I also hope that she is involved in the decisions about protection as well. It isn't just one person's job to protect against unwanted outcomes, so hopefully the two of you will keep talking about this.
I noticed that you said that you didn't want to feel dumb when pulling out. That suggests to me that you aren't talking to each other about what you are doing sexually. I hope you will take this email to her and talk with her. It isn't dumb at all to pull out. You are protecting yourself and her from an unplanned pregnancy and for many couples that is a sign of how you feel about each other. She can be flattered that you are thinking about this and concerned. If you have not talked about protection, she may just think you want 'sex' from her and nothing else. Please talk with her about this and together talk about what protection will be best for the two of you. It may be that you will want to do lots of other pleasuring of each other to orgasm and not even take the risk of intercourse. There are so many ways to enjoy each other sexually, and if you aren't ready for a pregnancy, you may want to explore those.
Again, feel free to write more questions if you have them.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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