Question:
I am 27.5 years old. Until a little less than a month ago, I was a virgin. I have always had a strong desire for sexual inimacy, and sometimes found it overpowering. I have had what I will label a problem with masturbation. I would frequently go weeks or months without masturbating, but when I became overwhelmed with lustful desire, I would engage in masturbation, sometime up to 7-10 times a day. This also eventually led to me developing an addiction to pornography, which I feel is disgusting (I feel pretty strongly about anyone being treated with disrespect, and porn does nothing except lower people to sexual objects). I have always tried to overcome these, as they work against my ideologies and belief systems. I also found that instead of "relieving tension," they would usually only make me crave more.
When I did finally have intercourse recently, it was felt good. As far as the relationship I have with my partner, well, I feel I am alright working that out. At the moment, it appears that our relationship is reverting to what it was before we had sex. I had stronger feelings for her than she for me, but that stuff I can work out. My problem here is that I need to do something about my hunger. I do not want to be sexually active. Although I don't regret anything, a month ago I was firmly determined to remain a virgin until I married. That ideal is gone now, and that is something that may cause me some regret later, just now now. But I do not wish to have another sexual partner until I marry. So...
My question is: Is there anything, natural or medical, that I can take in order to lessen my sexual desire, hopefully without it being a permanent cure? I do hope to express my desire to my wife someday.
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