Question:
I'm 44 yrs old and have been with my husband for 17 years. I truly love him, but since internet came into our home (5 yrs ago) he has become obsessed with on-line pornography. He stays up to 3 am + on pornographic sites. He's just about lost interest in me sexually. He's very into s and m and wants me to tie hime up, hurt and humiliate him. Believe me I tried it satisfy him, but it was not satisfying for me and it led the way for him to request this kind of sex only. Since I told him that it was not fulfilling for me and that I would rather engage in tender and loving caresses, he returned to the internet and pretty much gave up sex with me.
When we got a web-cam, his next request was that we should film ourselves having sex and put it on the net. I refused. He then had the idea of "swapping" partners with people he'd contact on the net. I told him if he pursued that idea, I considered our marriage was over - I have sex with him because I love and desire him. It's not an animal thing for me that I can turn on and engage in sex with a stranger.
Is there anything that I can do or is our marriage defintely doomed ? To the outside world he continues to appear as a wonderful father and husband. I find it hard imagining life without him, but I'm also suffering in silence (I can't exactly discuss these problems with family or friends) and I am extremely unhappy.
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