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by Larry Siegel: (06/05/2004)
Hello and thanks for writing in. I apologize for not getting back to you sooner. I'll try to address your questions and concerns in some kind of order... First, there is no way to tell you how often you should masturbate. The real question to be asked is if you are comfortable with how often you pleasure yourself and does it interfere with your daily life in any way. I think the answer to the first part is pretty obvious: you don't seem to be comfortable with this. Internet porn is a very easy thing to get "hooked" on. It requires no effort on your part, you can be whomever you'd like to be, it can very sexually exciting (usualy involving women most men can only fantasize about), and it results in an orgasm, often with a delusion of something intimate. The problem is when the convenience and simplicity of internet porn takes over and prevents you from seeking and engaging in real relationships. If you want to stop viewing internet porn, I would recommend making a conscious decision to leave the computer off for a couple of days. If you can't go without the computer for one reason or another, make the decision to not go to any other website. There is filter software out there but I think that might just make it easier to place responsibility outside yourself and give yourself the out of "I can't help it." If you truly feel this is compulsive behavior, get the filters, keep the computer off, and find a therapist you can trust to deal with compulsive (and possibly obsessive) disorders. I would stick to my recommendation of taking responsibility yourself, though...
AS far as the force of your ejaculations, the more frequently we ejaculate, the less powerful it tends to be. No, you won't run out of sperm, but your body may not be able to keep up with the production demand. Along with taking a break from the internet, I would also suggest giving yourself at least a week of refraining from masturbation. This may seem like alot, but if that's not possible for you to do, I would definitely recommend seeing a therapist who specializes in sexual compulsivity and desire disorders. This is all really about re-taking control of your sex drive and sexual impulses. It is a conscious decision and you may even feel a bit uncomfortable for a time. But stay with your decision and find a therapist if you need one.
Good luck. Take care and be well. peace
Larry SiegelReviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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