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by Kathleen VanKirk: (10/07/2005)
The taboo pleasures of prostate stimulation have not gone by unnoticed ... did you see the movie Road Trip, in which one of the characters succumbs to anal seduction by a nurse in order to be able to give a semen sample? Male anal play goes all the way back to the dawn of time and was especially popular in the Greek and Roman cultures. Many men incorporate anal stimulation into their sexuality or have, at the very least, experimented with it. This can be a whole new aspect to sex just waiting to be explored. And I've heard that the orgasm associated with it can be quite intense.
However, if you're interested in prostate stimulation, there are a few things you should know. Number one is to separate anal play from the concept that it "makes you gay". The fact that your body may respond to a different physical sensation has nothing to do with your sexual identity. Number two is that Lube is your friend...use it! Your anus does not have as much natural lubrication as your vagina, so invest in some good lube. There are now thicker brands available that are specific for anal play. Novices, especially, should be using lube to avoid anal tears and bleeding. I believe that some of the people who tried anal sex only once ended up hating it just because they hadn't used lubrication; it can profoundly change the experience.
Use the process slowly. Anal penetration (whether on a male or a female) is not something you dive right into, and especially not so with a 10 inch strap-on dildo. Start with some external stimulation and then have your girlfriend gradually work her way in with her fingers. Watch out for long nails, however -- ouch! If she feels uncomfortable about using her fingers, or if there is a concern about safety or cleanliness, she could always use a pair of latex gloves during insertion.
Then move on to smaller anal dildos, plugs, or vibes and only eventually work up to a strap-on. These can be a little tricky in that there is no sensation of depth for the person who is using it on the other. That is to say, your girlfriend won't be able to tell through a piece of rubber or silicon how far she's going in, how tight the anus is, how much friction she is creating by pumping in and out, or if the lube may be drying out. You've got to be very clear, therefore, in communicating with your girlfriend about what feels good and what doesn't. The person who is getting penetrated should actually be the one in control. If your girlfriend is looking for a little sensation for herself, there are strap-ons that have clitoral stimulators on the inside of the mounting piece that rub her clitoris while she is penetrating you.
In fact, it might be helpful to try stimulating yourself a couple of times before you hand over that honor to someone else. That way you'll know what you like ahead of time and you can then be more in control of the experience.
Copyright 2005 Libida.com and Dr. Kathleen Van Kirk
Reviewed by: Kathleen VanKirk DHS
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