Question:
i am a 19 year old boy. i do my studies in india.i am very succesfull in my studies and i am doing my life well. But there is one problem which has been in my mind for years. when i was a child (about 9-10 years old) I happen to be in a sexual act with a friend of mine(boy). it involved seeing eachother mastrubating. but as a boy i am interested in girls. i again continued to have such a sexual contact with him, not knowing what i was doing. slowly i did the same with one of my relatives(boy) and we continue to do it till recently. i want to stop it and even my friend, but we are not able to control when we see eachother. even now when we sleep together we help eachother mastubate and once the we cum we go to sleep seperately. we both want to stop it. i like girls and want to have sex with a girl.
Also i don't have this problem with all boys , now i only have it with my relative and i have a normal relation with all my other friends.But i get attracted to any gorgeous girl.
Also once i was travelling in a bus 4 years ago (a night trip) a man sitting next to my seat started rubbing my penis. the moment i came to feel that some one is touching me i stopped him and he asked me sorry and stopped.
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Answer:
by Konstance McCaffree: (07/08/2004)
What you are describing here is something that happens to young people so often. It is all very normal. When you were a child you had sex play that you found pleasurable. It happens to many of us! When we find something pleasurable we want to continue it. Over the years, you have had that opportunity, and now when you see him you also have sexual release and pleasure.
You are attracted to women, and in your culture you have not had the opportunity to have sex with a girl/woman since it is highly discouraged until you are married. Until you meet a woman whom you can "court" and marry, you will probably find that it is good and healthy to have some sexual release with your friend and your relative. There is nothing wrong with this. Once you have another sexual partner in a woman, you may find the desire is less for your friend.
Sexual arousal can have many stimuli, and what you are feeling is very natural. You found pleasure when you were younger, it has continued to be pleasurable, and until you have something else that is pleasurable for you as well, why should you need to stop it? Sexual arousal and release is healthy for us all, if you are enjoying it, it continues to be private (so others who might not understand it would not punish you), and neither of you is feeling exploited, then there is no reason to worry about it.
If you would like to ask me more about this feel free to write back again. Your feelings and reactions in all this are very normal and happen to many men.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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