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My boyfrien and I was going to have intercourse. this would be my first time. When he put his finger inside of me it really hurt. As long as he didn't move it went fine, but as soon as he moved the finger just a littel bit it hurt a lot!! why??
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Answer:
by Konstance McCaffree: ()
It is not easy for me to know the exact reason why it might have hurt when he put his finger inside of you, but I can give you some possibilities. If you are not used to anything being in the vagina, the nerve endings in and around the vagina are not used to anything touching them. That may mean they are more sensitive and tender to touch than they would be if you had more touching there. I presume that you do not use tampons because the touching of the tampon inside often helps a woman know what that feels like.
Another reason it might hurt is that he was pushing too hard on the skin tissue at the opening (hymen) and the muscles that surround the opening into the vagina. Those areas are very sensitive and if you aren't used to it nor is your boyfriend, the touch could be too hard.
Though it isn't likely it is possible you have a vaginal infection or inflammation that would make the skin more tender as well.
His fingers could be dry and there was rubbing of dry skin against your skin. I would suggest that you use a water based lubricant such as KY Jelly for any fingering that you do in the future.
It would probably not be wise to have intercourse until the fingering feels pleasurable because trying to put the penis in may make it even more sore. You should also use the lubricant when you have intercourse. It will make the skin less tender to touch and ease the friction between his skin and yours.
If you have other questions please feel free to ask.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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