Answer: by Melissa BEE: ()
Hello and thank you for your question.
It sounds like you are a very caring and loving person, and you seem to have prepared as well as you possibly can.
The only other things I can tell you is that the first time can feel uncomfortable and sometimes unpleasant, simply out of fear -- this is a totally new physical and emotional experience and they have nothing to compare it to -- so fear just in itself can cause a degree of dryness and muscle spasm. But this does not always happen to everyone. The second times is generally much better than the first, because you know what to expect.
Not everyone bleeds. The usual amount is about a tablespoon. Get a dark-coloured towel and place it under her bottom during intercourse, if you want to catch any spills. If she has had some bleeding, she may want to shower afterwards. There is no need for dressings or antiseptics. The bleeding is simply from the tearing of the hymen, the tissue that protects the vagina in a virgin.
Don't be in any hurry, it sounds like you are both doing everything 'right.' I expect you will both have a very pleasurable experience, that will continue to get better during your lives together.
Best Wishes,
Melissa BEE Reviewed by: Scott Gross M. Ed.
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