You mentioned that if there weren't any girls or sex you wouldn't need masturbation. Most people masturbate even when they do have a partner, wife, spouse, significant other. Masturbation is a different sex act than having sexual pleasuring with a partner. It allows you to focus on yourself and release your own feelings with out feeling the need to be focused on a partner. That is why so many married/relationship couples have both types of sex - masturbation and that with a partner.

You also mentioned that you enjoyed thinking about walking on a beach with a pretty girl. NOtice that it is really not about the act of "sex" (which is far more than intercourse for most people), it is about feeling intimacy through companionship and enjoying the beauty of another person. All of those things make a great relationship.

Thanks again for writing!

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