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right, me and my girlfriend were having sex and we are always checking the condom to prevent any accidents. recently i pulled my penis out (before ejaculation) and i noticed alot of white spots on her hairs surounding the bottem of her vagina. i notice the same white stickyness on my own hair at the bottem of my pennis(near the rim of the condom. my first reaction was i thought it was her.we ignored it this time. well it happened again and this time there was more white stickyness outside the bottem of the condom. we checked but the condon was on securely. is there any way a condom could let any liquid out of the bottem near the rim. we are both very confused and are now avoiding sex as it haas happend now many times.
another question, i tend to pre cum alot and it is set off with somethink as suttle as a kiss, is it normal? it is very imbarrasing.??
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by Megan Andelloux: (11/28/2005)
What you sound like you are describing is her vaginal discharge.Completely normal and supposed to happen. Vaginal discharge/secretions happen for a couple different reasons. 1. The vagina is the cleanest area of the body-think of it like a self cleaning oven. At the end of the day, she might notice some discharge/wet stickness on the bottom of her underwear. That's all the stuff her body didn't need, wasn't suppossed to be in there being flushed out. So, no need to douche, throw soap up in there or any of that. Just wash in between the folds of the lips (labia) with some mild soap and she's good to go.
2. The other cause of vaginal discharge is due to arousal. Yup, it means she's turned on ( a good thing to happen if you're having sex!) Just like a man's body needs to get an erection in order to have sexual interourse, a woman's body prepares to have sex by producing vaginal secretions, lubing up the vagina, so sex doesn't hurt. Some women produce more lube than others and the amount of lube a woman produces does not necessarily tell you how turned on she is. If she is on any hormonal birth control methods, antidepressents, antihypertensives, antihistimines (for alleries), it could suck up her natural lubrication and so then you need to go to the store and buy water based lubrication-KY liquid or astroglide. They are easy to find in any drugstore or supermarket next to the condoms.
Sex is never supposed to hurt, but if she doesn't produce enough lube, it will. So buying some lube will get rid of the pain. No baby oil, body lotion, cooking oil, massage oils should go near the vagina-it can cause a nasty infection!
So, relax and enjoy each other! Now that you know her body better, you can romp away without worrying that you broke the condom.
PS-Putting a couple drops of that lube I mentioned INSIDE the resevoir tip, BEFORE you roll it down on your penis will reduce the chances of it coming off, breaking and it will make wearing a condom 10x better than without the lube. No more than 2-3 drops though, otherwise you'll feel like you are swimming. And, no oils with a condom as it will destroy the latex within 60 seconds. Astroglide or KY Liquid baby.
Good luck and thanks for writing in!
Megan Andelloux
Editors note: I agree with Megan Andelloux - quite likely that the 'white stickyness' you mention is just natural vaginal fluids and lubrication. It is also possible that a white discharge could indicate a yeast infection or other imbalance/infection. If your girlfriend has any other symptoms (irritation, itching, redness, discharge, etc.), it would be a good idea to visit the dr. or clinic and get it checked out. Patricia Fawver, Ph.D.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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