Answer: by Konstance McCaffree: (05/28/2004)
THanks for asking great questions. I hope you got my answers from before, but I'm glad to continue answering any questions you have.
Any wet spot on clothing from pre-cum does not have sperm in it, because pre-cum comes through the urethra (tube in male's penis) to clean out the acids from urine that might destroy sperm. Pre-cum is primarily semen, though it may carry disease germs. It doesn't carry sperm unless a male just ejaculted. Even then, the sperm can't get through the jeans. It is very fragile and needs lots of protection, which is why there is more than 100 million sperm in each ejaculation.
There is no way that sperm can stay alive once it is not protected by very moist semen. Touching yourself with dry hands, even though you may have touched what you thought might have sperm on it is not at all a risk for pregnancy. REmember: sperm is fragile and dies easily. Dry means no sperm.
I don't know what you mean by going through normal ovulation means you won't be pregnant. You can't tell that you are ovulating, though you may have signs that you recognize as possibly the time that would be ovulation time. The only way to know that you aren't pregnant is to test for the rise in pregnancy hormones in your urine or blood and to be examined by a doctor. All the other signs, are just external signs where we are guessing. Assuming you are ovulating though, you won't already be pregnant usually, if you are ovulating another egg. Usually, once an egg is ovulated and it is not fertilized, the hormonal changes occur that create menstruation and the cycle starts over again. A new egg is produced. If you are already pregnant, a new egg is usually not produced and your body knows it is pregnant.
Sexual pleasuring of each other, like fingering, can continue to feel good. Of course, the first few times you do anything, it may seem more exciting than later on just because we get used to the feelings and they may not feel 'new' as they once did. That does not mean that you can't get some of the great pleasure that you had before to return.
It just means that you need to be sure to be relaxed, have plenty of privacy so there are no worries, and that maybe you need to change some of the positions that you do it in. YOu may like some things more than others, so you need to let your boyfriend know what feels good. As you are exploring have signals that you can send that let him know that you want more of something, or less of something else. All of this takes a great deal of communication between partners. Usually, the best sexual pleasuring comes from communicating well to each other.
Thanks again for your questions. I gladly will answer them.
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