Question:
Okay, this is kind of a long question, almost a story. Im 18 years old, 6ft 3, a little overweight, not too bad, i weigh about 230. Im not the healthiest person, Im not positive but i might have slightly high blood pressure, the doctors never said anything before about it but im just saying, i know its not the lowest ever. Okay, i just want to give some background.
Okay , me and my girlfriend have been together for about 4 months, but we are just recently beginning to be sexually active. Weve had sex a few times, prolly about 5 or so , and she is my first partner.
Now, i have an interesting problem...its not that i cant ever get an erection...and its not that im a premature ejaculator...its somewhere in the middle. If me and my girlfriend have sex for the first time in a few days, I can get really erect and hard, and everything works out okay, that is if i last long enough, shes had orgasms before so premature ejaculation isnt really my problem although its something i have to worry about sometimes when im excited... but no, my problem is that if we have sex one day...i cant get hard the next day, the first time we noticed was when i had masturbated that morning...and i still have really strong sex drive, but when we were both naked ,and on top of each other...i couldnt get it hard enough! and then another time we had sex one night, and everything was okay, but then the next...i could only get semi-hard, and it wasnt enough to penetrate her. Now, maybe this is normal for some, or maybe not, but ive heard of lots of people who get hard a lot, some even can have multiple orgasms. and my girlfriends exboyfriend used to be able to have sex one a day at least, sometimes twice a day or more. Its intimidating when I think that I cant even come close to that. Is this something that my body might get used to like she said? or is this something Im going to have to live with? Could it be psychological since im new at this? What could i do to improve my problem! please help...
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Answer:
by Hussein Ghanem: (05/24/2004)
Any man may fail in sex from time to time. The condition is defined as an erectile dysfunction only if it is persistent. Erectile dysfunction could be either physical or psychogenic (mainly performance-anxiety or fear of failure). It is safe to assume that your condition is psychological since it is intermittent with periods where you function normally, your young age, and the absence of significant medical illnesses.
It also appears to me that your problem doesn’t qualify as a dysfunction. Most men do not perform daily. Actually the average frequency for sexual intercourse for healthy young adults is in the range of 2-3 per weak.
My advice to you is to focus on the pleasure and quality of intercourse, not the frequency. Comparing yourself to others is also useless negative thinking. However, if this problem becomes troubling or persistent, you might benefit from visiting a sex therapist.
Please check my recent article on this subject - Modern Trends In The Management of Erectile Dysfunction - on sexualhealth.com
Best wishes, Hussein Ghanem, MD Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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