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hi
i have a friend named chris, ho happens to be gay, (no big deal, were great friend still)and reciently he has been complaining to me about some pain in his testicles. heres the actuall conversation, sience i found it hard 2 summerize it. (im Lee and he is Chris):
Chris anyway... i really need to talk to you....
Lee ?
Chris and i am being serious... so don't get freaked out
Chris i really think i have a problem
Lee ?
Lee what?
Chris h/o a sec
Lee ok
Chris it's a sexual thing
Chris ....
Lee ...?
Chris like ok lemme start with brian...
Lee ok
Chris he came 3 times....
Lee ok
Chris i never did...
Lee and..?
Chris like idk i couldn't for some reason
Chris and then my balls hurt like u wouldn't believe
Lee ummm....
Chris but like.... tonight we did some stuff... but i never came.... like there wasn't time to finish
Chris i mean i am in excrutiating pain here...
Lee is either swollen?
Chris ummmm the left one is a little lower than the other... might be a little bigger....idk
Chris ummm well actually.... it's really only the left one that really hurts
Lee ok
Lee but u never came at all?
Chris it feels like something's blocked or somethin inside.... like a buildup or somethin
Chris nope
Lee can u jack off n come?
Chris yeah all the time
Lee ummm...
Chris that 's why i'm confused
Lee but when u acually do something , it never happens, and it hurts
Chris yes
Chris but it's really bad this time
Chris like i feel noxious it hurts so bad...
Chris anyway... it's like i've only gotten oral..... i mean i've never actually fucked anyone... i've only been fucked
Lee this may be, but ill keep looking
Chris i don't think that'd make a difference but idk
Lee I have been seeing a girl for quite a while and when sexual arrousal occurs for a while with no ejaculation, I later feel pain in my left testicle. I am wondering if this is simply the symptoms of "Blue Ball"(I am smashing the balls while arroused or if this is a precursor to something more dangerous such as testicular cancer or something else. Please Let me know what is wrong. Jason =============
Lee [Editor's Note: Though this question is not on a topic that we usually address in this forum, one of our staff did provide an excellent answer and therefore it is being posted.] Dear Jason, I don’t think there is anything wrong with you, this is not a precursor for cancer and your right when you notice this pain particularly if you don’t ejaculate. It is possible to injure your testicles (smash)
Lee while engaging in sexual activities but usually this is not the case. Your body prepares itself to ejaculate with a stage called emission. This first phase of ejaculation consists of depositing secretions from the periurethral glands, seminal vesicles and prostate. This pressure in your reproductive organs may cause pain. This pain you are experiencing might be avoided by ejaculation.
Lee Your experience is quite a common one amongst sexually excited but non-ejaculating males. If this pain does not subside, it is also possible that you have an infection. If you experience continuous pain, burning when you urinate or any urinating difficulties, I would see your doctor.
Chris hmmm that sounds just about it
Chris hmm
Chris well i just peed a while ago and no problem there
Chris that sounds exactly like what i'm havin
Lee really?
Chris but like... let me tell u..... with brian... i was so embarrassed.... we were at it for a while
Lee ooh
Chris i mean after 2 hours... i think it should have happened
Lee yeah...
Chris but like i noticed again tonight.. my fingertips get all tingly
Lee hmmm
Chris like when they're cut off from circulation
Lee when
Chris like in the act
Chris well i'm going to try doin what that thing said....
Chris and see if it gets better
Chris so ummm *cough* excuse me
Chris brb Chris wow... well it's feeling a little better now... still a lil sore
after that we said bye n he went to bed, i then found this site and registered inorder to ask , as i am conserned for him.
thank you for your time. It, and any answer you can give me are much appreciated.
Lee
PS the additional details i gave are detail about Chris
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Answer:
by Blaise Parker: (06/14/2005)
Hi,
It does sound like your friend Chris is experiencing "blue balls," based on my understanding of his situation. I would say the same thing that the other professional said about seeing a doctor if it persists or gets worse. I have been told (don't know firsthand, since I'm a woman!) that blue balls can be quite painful, and they usually occur when someone is aroused for a long time but does not ejaculate.
I suspect that Chris's inability to ejaculate is related to his testicular pain, in that the former is causing the latter. However, I suspect his inability to ejaculate is being caused by something else. Since he can come when he is masturbating, it's probably not a physical problem but a psychological one. Some people have difficulty "letting go" in front of their partners, while others have difficulty maintaining their concentration and focus enough to come. Also, it may be that his partner is not using the techniques that Chris prefers. When someone masturbates, he or she usually develops a preferred speed, grip, type of stimulation, intensity, etc. So one way that Chris might be able to come more easily with his partner would be to masturbate with him, to show him what he likes and what works best.
Good luck, and thanks for caring about your friend enough to ask this question!
BlaiseReviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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