Nature has probably preprogrammed males need to orgasm quickly before they are attacked and eaten by predators. Humans are probably the only animals who seek to overcome this rule. It's also natural for a man to lose his erection and desire for sex after he ejaculates. Many men often learn to have a rapid response pattern because they had no privacy and needed to finish masturbating quickly. If you wish your boyfriend to last longer, your first challenge is to coax him to increase the amount of time you spend in foreplay.

Later, if your boyfriend is willing to appreciate your dilemma and willing to learn to control his ejaculation, you might try the 'Stop-Start' method. To practice this method, whilst having sex, when he feels that he is approaching the point of ejaculation, both of you must stop and just hold each other until his urge to ejaculate subsides. He must take long deep breaths and concentrate on 'holding back' his ejaculation. You may repeat this a few times. It may take a few tries to identify the point of 'no return', and to stop just before he ejaculates but you do have the rest of your life to practice and "get it right." Some men require more him to learn this so you have to be patient. Tell your boyfriend to indicate to you when to slow down and stop your movements for the moment and relax.

Give him a copy of Bernie Zilbergeld's, 'THE NEW MALE SEXUALITY' because it has additional useful information and specific exercises to overcome premature ejaculation.

Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team