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I am having a sexual relationship with a 33 year old female and I seem to have premature ejaculation after intercourse. I have been diagonosed with nonverbal learning disability
or asperger's syndrome.
and i seem to have premature e
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Answer:
by John (Jack) Johnston: (05/31/2004)
Since you are taking a number of medications, it is a very good idea for you to speak to your prescribing physician about the premature ejaculation.
Additionally, the issue may be something very simple such as too much stimulation too quickly. Many men have a cultural program that pushes them to hurry up, to fear relaxation since it might mean a loss of erection, anxiety about disappointing your partner, etc. These can all lead to an experience of premature ejaculation. Believe it or not, some times premature ejaculation is a result of not being turned on enough! I've included a link that gives a nice overview of the subject.
It's important to see this challenge as an opportunity for you and your partner to expand your communication and thus potentially deepen your relationship. There's a great book about communication in relationship, written by Dr. David Schnarch. It's called "Passionate Marriage" and it's not just for people who are "officially" married. It's for anyone involved in an intimate relationship. It gives some great perspectives, and some excellent tools for deepening the intimacy of a relationship, along with the sexuality. One of my favorites is: "Hugging til relaxed." That may sound a little odd, but the truth is that many couples have real difficulty making continuing eye contact while holding each other until both are truly relaxed! There are a number of other great ideas in the book as well.
You might also benefit from my audio seminar: "Male Multiple Orgasm Step by Step", since it teaches you how to relax into pleasure, while actually bypassing ejaculation. The important component for you might be the exercises for couples which I describe in the seminar. These exercises are practiced with each other while remaining fully clothed (to begin with!)
Last, I would like to suggest a classic in the field: "How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation" by the late Helen Singer Kaplan. I have provided a link to this book at Amazon.com where you can also read what other readers have said about it (VERY popular!).
Good luck!Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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