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For my health graduation standard, i had to chose a topic and i chose teen sex. i was wondering what the difference between love and sex was?
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Answer:
by Konstance McCaffree: (06/03/2004)
There are some wonderful authors who write about sex and love so if you see books by Sol Gordon on How Do you know if you are really in love? there may be some answers for you.
Let me give you other ways to describe the difference. First you need to consider gender because in our culture and the way males and females are raised there may be little difference for one gender. Often females are taught that in order to have sex (and sex may be defined as sexual intercourse OR for some any behavior that two people engage in together that is sexually arousing and pleasurable) one must need to be in love. Therefore, any form of sexual contact that isn't with someone they love isn't really sex or if it is they feel guilty about it.
The pleasure of sexual touching and arousal for both genders can feel really powerful and sometimes that is what is defined as love. It is not though - it is simply arousal or sex. Some would call it lust.
Love is something our culture teaches us about caring for someone so deeply that we might do -----and you can fill in the blanks. We are all taught that love means different things. To take words from a popular movie many years ago "love means never having to say you are sorry." Love is often defined by how the community/culture you grew up in defines what you are to do when you love someone. It is defined by the culture.
Sometimes sex is defined by the culture on how you have to behave in order to be having sex i.e. is oral sex , sex? is anal sex, sex?
I know this may not answer the question you asked but for anyone you ask that question they may have very different answers on what the difference means to THEM.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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