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i'm not interested in sex with my husband anymore, i don't have any desire for it and i do it just for the sake that he's my husband and i have to do it..no feelings at all and no sensation, i even feel pain
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by John (Jack) Johnston: (06/04/2004)
Some studies have reported that this is THE most common complaint that women in relationship have. So please understand that you are not alone in facing this challenge!
There are several facets to the issue: first is the stress in your relationship with your husband. If you two are feeling conflict and have not yet been able to resolve it, then your lack of desire, and even pain during intercourse is a natural response!
Sexual desire is often a very good barometer of the quality of communication in a marriage. If the communication is facing challenges, then often (although not always), the sex will not be very pleasurable either.
Along with this may be cultural attitudes and religious beliefs that could present particular challenges to your finding the support you need.
I will recommend an excellent book that may help you get a little perspective, but it's most important for you to seek marital counseling.
It can be difficult to bring up such a subject when there is already a lot of discord in a relationship, but if you approach it from the standpoint of wanting to make the relationship better, that can help.
Because you describe the communication challenges you and your husband have as having been going on for eight years, you need professional assistance in sorting things out.
The book I'd like to recommend, not as a magic fix, but as a beginning on developing a perspective, is by Dr. David Schnarch. It is called "Passionate Marriage". The link I'm providing to it is Dr. Schnarch's website and there is a lot of information available there.
Also, problems you describe are a special focus of the Female Sexual Medicine Center, at the University of California Los Angeles. If it's possible for you to call them, the # is: 310-825-5088, or fax: 310-206-5343.
Perhaps they can help you locate someone in Egypt who can help you.
The co-director there, Dr. Laura Berman, is available for telephone consultation as well. To schedule call Tracey Thibodeaux at 310-208-2222.
TV personality Oprah Winfrey has frequently addressed this issue on her program. I am including a link to a page of hers that provides many links to additional resources, including an online discussion and support group that could be of tremendous value to you. Don't give up! Remember that you are not alone with this problem. There are literally millions of women in the world who face this! Good luck in your quest for finding additional support. I hope the links and contact information I am providing will be helpful to you!Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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