Question:
HI! So glad I found this website!! Here are my concerns:
1) My husband masturbates everyday..sometimes 2x a day! He usually does this when I'm home (he watches porn), when he thinks I'm asleep. I'm starting to feel that he prefers those model looking porn stars over me, even if he tells me that it is not so! Is this normal for a man?
2) There are times when after one round of sex (not long), I could go for another, but my husband can't. He says that after he cums, he needs about 45 min. to get going again. Normal?
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Answer:
by Yvonne Fulbright: ()
It is perfectly normal that your husband isn't up for a second round within the hour that you have sex. After a man ejaculates, he enters a refractory period, during which he will be unable to become erect and perform. It's also normal for him to feel tired too. This can be a little frustrating for women, like yourself, who are ready for more sex since females don't enter a refractory period. If he can't have vaginal-penile intercourse with you, suggest that he try other ways of pleasuring you, like performing cunnilingus or using a vibrator on you.
With regard to your husband masturbating twice a day, there is no "normal" amount of masturbation. It's different for every individual and differs from day to day, week to week, depending on life events, health, mood, etc... There is nothing wrong with your husband masturbating, or even watching porn while he's doing so. What is bothersome about the situation, however, is that he feels the need to be secretive about it and that he seems insensitive to your feelings.
Tell your husband how you feel. I'm sure that he is being sincere when he tells you that he finds you attractive. The women in those porn videos are a fantasy to him and shouldn't be looked at as a threat, rather a potential way to spice up your sex life. If the two of you are open about his enjoyment of porn, it could lead to better sex between the two of you. Perhaps, you could even watch porn with him on occasion. You may find that you enjoy it and that it can make for hot sex. If you are, however, totally against it, your discussion becomes a different matter and one of respecting the different ways the two of you become eroticized.
Thank you for visiting the Sexual Health Network.
Yvonne K. Fulbright Reviewed by: Scott Gross M. Ed.
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