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Hey, I'm 15 years old and my girlfriend is a few months younger than i am, not a large age difference,but i have a question about female teen orgasms. So far, i have given my g/f 4 fingerings for the two months we've been dating. Out of these four, she has never climaxed. She's ashamed of it, becaus eher best friend doe sthe same thing with her boyfriend, but she gets somewhere. Is there anything i can do as her partner to help her reach an orgasm? And if so, how long should it take?
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by Konstance McCaffree: ()
This is a great question and I'm glad you asked it. First, you need to help your girlfriend recognize several things. One, she should not ever compare herself and her responses to any one else. The girlfriend she is comparing to may be making it up and unless your girlfriend is right there when she has an orgasm and can watch it happen, there is not evidence that she had one. Sometimes people brag about things that don't really happen.
Secondly,there is nothing to be embarrassed about. It isn't anything to be concerned about. It will happen when she is stimulated enough or in the right position or turned on enough. She can learn to see how to stimulate herself by masturbating and getting to know her own body. Then she can teach you what feels good. Since you can't feel what she feels then she has to move her body and tell you how to stimulate her. You can't read her mind.
Third, there is no amount of time that this will take. Instead of worrying about having an orgasm why not just enjoy having the sexual pleasure. Too many people worry about the orgasm and miss the experience.
Fourth, try lots of things together just to enhance your own sexual pleasuring together. If you try to make it a goal to have the orgasm it may never come because you aren't letting your bodies relax and get turned on by just enjoying it!
Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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