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Me and my Girlfriend have been having a problem i have never had with another female before and its kinda wierd. She enjoys giving oral sex however she says i am the largest shes ever had and it hurts to open her mouth that wide; ive never thought me being so large would be such a problem. i was just wondering if there was anything I or She could do to rectify this problem and make it easier, she says she like to give head and hell i love to get it, its kinda frustrating. she is actually really upset that she cannot please me orally, ive told her its no big deal so she wouldnt be upset but honestly it kinda is a big deal. i just want some advice on what to do. thank you

Answer:
by Scott Gross: (07/07/2005)
Hi and thanks for your question. Unfortunately I'm not sure there is anything that you or your partner can really do to help alleviate some of her pain. People come in different sizes and there's not too much we can do about what we're made of. You cannot make your penis any smaller and she cannot make her mouth any bigger. However, don't give up hope. She may not be able to give you head directly, but that doesn't mean that you can't both enjoy her giving you oral sex. You might try using some flavored lubes and she can use her hands and her mouth/lips/tongue to stimulate your penis. What may be happening is that her jaw begins to ache from being opened so wide for so long. Many people suffer from the same issue. Because this is joint pain I don't know of any products that you can use to alleviate it. Giving you oral sex in shorter bursts rather than all at one time might help her, and mixing things up can be a lot of fun. The next time she goes to the dentist, make sure she asks about a condition called TMJ. It is very common in young women, and can cause a woman's jaw to ache and/or "pop" from chewing (especially gum), and opening. Good luck to you both, and be sure to ask us any other questions you might have. Scott Gross

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