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Hello. I've only been with one man for the last five years and I have a problem. My vagina is not the same as it used to be. I'm upset that it has stretched considerably. I'm ashamed of it and it makes me feel slutty even though I'm not. I didn't know that it could become so loose with just one guy like it has. I can barely feel anything anymore and sex just isn't fun. I want to know if this is normal, if it is, how do people still have sex when they're loose??? PLEASE HELP. I want to know if I can do anything about it. Thanks.

Answer:
by Melissa BEE: ()
Hi, Thank you for your question. The vagina is essentially a muscular tube. Supporting this structure is the muscular pelvic floor. Both of these things will affect your 'tightness'. I suggest you try some Kegels exercises and if you can do some exercise for your lower body like swimming or cycling, this will help tone you, and you should notice a considerable difference both in tightness and the level of sensitivity and feeling. You can also have what is called a 'vaginal repair'. This operation is one sometimes performed on women after they have had several children. This tightening can help give back what you lost, but you also need to be exercising to keep everything firm and taut! To do KEGELS: First find the muscles that control your pelvic floor. Do this by sitting on the toilet and starting and stopping the flow of urine. While this includes some urinary bladder muscles as well, it is this whole group of muscles you need to know the 'feel' of. You have probably tightened and relaxed these muscles many times, but not been aware of it. So while you have an empty bladder, or when you are seated anywhere, anytime, then do your "Kegels" Squeeze the muscles in tightly for a count of three. Like you are 'pulling in' if you were busting to go to the toilet. Then relax. Repeat this until the muscles feel tired. Initially this will only be a couple of times before they feel tired. Later you will be able to work up the repetitions. If you do Kegels 2-3 times a day, within a few weeks, you will notice a discernible difference. If you don't notice any difference, get your GP to refer you to a gynaecologist, who can assess your suitability for a vaginal (or pelvic floor) repair, which includes tightening up ligaments and other things as well. Best Wishes, Melissa BEE

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