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While you have information on vaginal tightness, I can't find anything on vaginal looseness. As you can imagine, this is a problem for me. Perhaps much the same as penis size is for a man. Is there any information you can provide to assist me with this problem?
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by Robert Birch: (05/17/2004)
Like noses, many of our parts seem to come in a variety of shapes and sizes. As you know, genitals that seem not to be a good match can cause considerable distress. Perhaps we could all find a better fit, but we fall in love with another's personality, not their sexual endowments.
It has often been recommended that women exercise their pubococcygeus (pronounced pew-bo-kac-se-gee'-us) muscles, or simply called their "PC muscles." These exercises have been named after Dr. Kegel, who first recommended them to women. I am sure a search of the web would find a description of these "Kegel Exercises."
The PC muscles are the band of muscles that form a sling between your legs from your pubic bone in front to your coccyx bone (tail bone) in back. On their way they surround the sphincter of your bladder, the muscles around the opening of your vagina, and those surround forming the sphincter of your anus. Theoretically, if your are diligent in doing your "Kegels," the opening of your vagina should tighten (and your orgasms should be more intense). I think it would take a lot of work with minimal gains, but is still something I recommend. (If you can't find directions on the web, write to me at birchbarks@aol.com and I'll send you some.)
For some women, arousal will cause the inner two-thirds of their vaginal barrel to balloon out and this can become quite spacious. For these women this is the natural consequence of their high level of arousal, and most would not trade their sexual excitement for a tighter vaginal vault!
There are probably women who have sought surgery to tighten their vaginal opening, but I would discourage that. There are also old stories of prostitutes "puckering up" after dousing with the astringent alum! Those are just stories.
I would recommend a lot of experimentation with positions of intercourse. If your partner pulls up high on your body, his penis will go down and under your pubic bone and give him something to rub against. In the rear entry ("doggie style") you will feel tighter to your partner.
If it is you who is not getting good sensations during intercourse, find positions in which your partner can simultaneously rub your clitoris with his fingers, in which you can rub yourself, or (if you choose) in which you can hold a vibrator on this sensitive spot.
In Pathways to Pleasure, coauthor Cynthia Ruberg and I write about the Kegel exercises and the use of vibrators during intercourse, and we also evaluate various positions of intercourse in terms of the clitoral stimulation provided.
Robert W. Birch, Ph.D.
Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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