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Me and my girl had "outercourse" less than last sunday the 4th. We BOTH had jeans and underwears on. After I ejactuated (inside my underwear) while rubbing AROUND where her vigina would be, my girl told me that the area of where I was rubbing on on her underwear was wet, she said my semen may have went through the layers of clothing and the cumming wasn't hers; on her underwear, its on separate spot from hers but still fairly close to the vigina area. She is very afraid now. Could my sperm have when thru 2 layers of (normal) jeans and underwears and would it be enough to fertize her egg? I know the likelyhood is very low, but here is even a bigger problem.

My girl is paraniod and is showing signs to mental stress, she don't feel like eating and sleeping and she seems to have developed a fever. Worst of all, sometimes, she seems to be avoiding me. We're still young and she can't afford to be pregrant.

My girl's last period was on around July 14th, give or take 1 day, today the 10th of Aug should have been her 28th day. She usually have a 30 day cycle, somewhat regular being 20 years old. But she usually have "period pain" 2 or 3 days before she actually starts her period. But today being the 28th day, nothing. Could her stress caused her to stop feeling the pain? From your calculation, what was the likelyhood of her being fertile on the 4th of Aug?

What should I do now? Please, please give me a reply.

On a side note; a woman by the name Dr. Ruth Wesheimer said; "The vaginal lips form a tight seal, so sperm that was only on the outside of the vagina could not get inside on their own."

Is this true?

Answer:
by Konstance McCaffree: (06/28/2004)
YOu have written several good questions in this letter so let me help you by providing information. Please let your girlfriend know that she is not at risk of a pregnancy. The reason she may have felt moisture on her underwear is that when she was sexually aroused during your "outcourse" she also makes moisture up in her vagina. That comes out into the underwear as well.

As for your sperm, there is NO WAY that it can get through two laters of clothing and into her vagina. Sperm is actually very fragile and that is why it needs to be protected by semen and why so many pregnancies do not ever occur. Sperm just can not penetrate clothing, and the moisture may be from the semen, but the sperm inside the semen is not able to get through.

Absolutely the stress she is feeling could easily block the pain of her oncoming period, and also delay her period from coming making her even more nervous. Aug. 4th in a 30 day period is a little late for there to be an egg present so she isn't likely to be pregnant anyway, but assure her that the more stressed she is the more delay she creates in her period.

As far as what Dr. Ruth said I don't agree with her that the lips create a tight seal, but there is not any chance that sperm is going to get through the layers of clothing even if there was moisture. Sperm just can't swim that hard, and just is too fragile.

For the future though I guess you and your girlfriend better not do what you were doing because it seems to stress her out a great deal. Having an ejaculation far away from her vaginal opening, and not putting any on your hands when you stimulate her though should be very safe!

Thanks for writing, and tell her to relax.

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