There are several ways to get aroused and you will just need to try some of them out and see which ones work best. The clitoris is usually the center of arousal for most women, and it is on the outside of the body (I presume you know where it is. If not, please write back to ask). That is why you don't need any sex toys for stimulating the clitoris.

You may need to fantasize though, and so you can either create a fantasy yourself, or you can look at pictures, videos (there are several out there for women, produced by Candida Royalle) or erotic movies.

You may want to get some water-based lubricant so that you hand/fingers touching the clitoris slides easily rather than get dry. YOu can either use your fingers to touch and stimulate in varying ways the clitoris, or you can rub your body against a pillow, stuffed animal or other object that feels good to you. YOu can be face down, face up or on your side.

There are actually several good books on masturbation for women. Betty Dodson is the author of both books and a video on how to masturbate. I know that you could learn by looking at her work.

She also teaches people how to use a vibrator which is put on the clitoris on the outside and can produce a powerful orgasm, even in women who seem to have a little trouble having them.

If you have further questions or want to explore anything more with me about the things I have said, please feel free to write back.

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