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Question:
I have been pleasing myself for about 4 years now and for awhile now, i have been doing it everynight, i was wondering if that was normal. Also i wanted to know- when i do it i get a better orgasm when i think about women, not men. But in life i am attracted to men. What does that mean?

Answer:
by Konstance McCaffree:
(06/07/2004)
I love the way you described "I have been pleasing myself"....This is such a positive way to look. That we deserve to be pleased! It is very normal to do every night. Many people use masturbation as a way to put themselves to sleep nightly, the way that others read a book to go to sleep. They both are just as acceptable. Also, the fantasy of women tells you nothing about yourself other than you enjoy that fantasy for orgasm! Being attracted to men in your "real" life is normal for you, and having fantasy for women is exciting as well. Often our fantasies do not match our lives. A good example is that many women fantasize about being raped and it is very erotic to them. In real life they would never want that to happen, but the fantasy, and the control they have within a fantasy, makes it very exciting. Continue to enjoy your fantasy and your self- pleasuring!

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